"What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it's supposed to be." - Anonymous
Most people have an image of what being in a loving relationship is; both parties adore each other, assist in the other's growth and are there for each other when needed. A best friend. A partner in crime. A lover. So it's natural to feel sad, frustrated or rejected when single.
What's problematic about those negative views towards singledom is that they mask the amazing opportunity being single offers. That opportunity is to discover one's true self. Loving one's own self is the most gratifying feeling.
Here are some great perspectives on the upside of being single:
"It's very fun to be single, because you know what happens? You find yourself. You understand what it means to love yourself, instead of putting all this energy into give and tug in a relationship."
Keke Palmer explains why being single is amazing (mic.com)
"You were told that your soulmate is supposed to be your best friend but really, the best thing about being single is realizing how to be your own best friend -- loving yourself, being happy hanging out with yourself, learning about yourself. At the end of the day, the only person you're guaranteed to spend every. single. day of your life with is yourself."
The perks of being single (huffingtonpost.com)
"A lot of the time when you're in a relationship, you lose yourself and you lose who you are and what makes you special. You're always putting all your energy on someone else, so find yourself again. Build yourself back up [and] be that big, radiant light."
Nicole Scherzinger's talks about the bright side of her breakup (people.com)