4 Books to Help You Through Your Breakup, According to Team Mend


Book: A General Theory of Love

"Call me a nerd, but I find comfort in science books after a breakup. I was a science major in college, so I think my first line of defense when dealing with heartbreak is understanding what's going on in my brain and body, and how I can “optimize” the situation. I devour anything about the science of heartbreak or the science of love. It's like, oohhhhh that's why I feel the way I do. One of the best books I've read has been A General Theory of Love. It's incredible to learn about what happens in your brain when you're in love, and what happens when you lose love."

Book: The Reluctant Fundamentalist

"Disclaimer: I’ve never seen the movie that came out based on The Reluctant Fundamentalist, so I can’t speak to whether that’s worth checking out. I read this novel when it came out a few years ago. I’m something of a noncommittal reader; if it’s not good 30 pages in, I’ll abandon a book like a child abandons toys. But this! I couldn’t put it down. It’s about so much more than a breakup, but the romance narrative of it gripped me more than all the interesting sociological themes. You’ll be totally engrossed and feel like you’re sitting down to dinner with the narrator, hearing his story of unrequited love and a failed American dream."

Book: The Artist's Way

"During my latest heartbreak, I adopted a one-tracked mind and would only concentrate on how much I missed him. In effect, I became very unproductive, ghastly stubborn and the last person you’d want to hang out with. One day at the beach, while writing, a very sweet man sat next to me and we talked about the benefits of journalling and he recommended I read The Artist’s Way. The book calls for the reader to write every morning, to face their demons and to create. This book was a wake up call to me and helped me get out of my snivel rut. An added bonus it that it’s chock-full of inspiring quotes. My favorite is from jazz legend Duke Ellington, “I merely took the energy it takes to pout and wrote some blues.”"

Book: The Progress of Love

"I started Alice Munro’s The Progress of Love just a few days before my relationship at the time went up in flames. In her book of short stories, Munro tackles the burden of love and all that loving someone can take from you. Some of the stories are brighter and more cheery than others, but the book overall is haunting. It was apt timing for me to dig through all of the sacrifices I had made and the cost of love that I had endured. Munro drags you into her stories and it’s impossible to abandon the series. Upon finishing the book, I felt lighter. It gave me permission to feel weighed down by that love, but it also allowed me to truly let it all go."