I often ask my single friends who are doing incredible things with their lives if they think they could have gotten to where they are if they were in a relationship. Their response is always "no." This is not to say that being in a relationship holds one back, but it is something to consider. There are benefits to being single. You do usually have much more time to devote yourself to whatever it is that you want to accomplish, whether it's related to professional goals or personal goals. So next time you're feeling grim about your single status, view it as your time.
Here are what five other people, ranging from a comedian to a politician, say about the many dimensions to single life:
“I don’t date because I don’t want to. Being alone is fantastic.”
-Comedian Matty’s hilarious list of why it’s great to be single. (washingtonpost.com)
“I am single, like many other people. If you’ve got a good marriage, God bless you. If you’re single, there’s nothing wrong with you…The last time I checked, there was nothing in the Constitution or at the White House that said, ‘Single people need not apply.’ I’m going to be a ready-to-go Commander-in-Chief, protect everybody, single people included.”
-Senator Lindsey Graham on why it’s okay to be single. (newyorker.com)
“I don’t hate the idea of love, I just hate everything you’re supposed to do to find it: all the weird guesswork and annoying logistics, the posturing and the texting and the watering down of your personality so as not to scare anyone off.”
-Writer Gabby, 20, shares her frustrations from pressures to date. (rookiemag.com)
"I’m not afraid of sleeping alone; I’m afraid of sleeping with the wrong person. I don’t feel like I’m missing out because I go to bed by myself. It isn’t the prospect of having no one to share my bed with that makes me nervous. What I’m scared of is getting intimate with someone, and then coming to regret it afterwards."
-Writer Gigi, on why she prefers to be single than to date. (elitedaily.com)
“What I learned from my father,” she says, “is that you cannot rely on someone else for your own happiness. That’s basically my motto. You have to make your own happiness and you have to make your own life.”
-Listen to Sex and the City author, Candace Bushnell speak on the importance of finding your own happiness. (washingtonpost.com)