We are often our toughest critics, and our claws tend to come out even more after a breakup. So take a moment to reflect on the thoughts that are going through your mind right now. What are you saying to yourself? Are you being kind? Or are you beating yourself up? Ask yourself: would I say this to my best friend?
Studies shows that treating yourself with more compassion is good for your health (nytimes.com), and it doesn't mean that you have to give up your standards or suddenly spew rainbows and unicorns. It just means that you are more mindful of your inner dialogue, you motivate yourself with kindness (not criticism) and you attempt to treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat a friend.