Work is stressful and hectic—even when you love your job. Office hours are filled with meetings that could easily have been emails, tasks you have to do but don’t necessarily want to do, and the added pressure that you have to chase professional growth. And while your relationship should never feel like work, but there are a few strategies you use to find success in your 9 to 5 that can help your love life.
Choosing to schedule a meeting > email.
I won’t fight you on this—there are a ton of meetings that could just be emails. But, there are those times when face to face interaction is the most efficient way to get things done. So much gets misconstrued from words in an email, your voice and tone don’t translate and oftentimes the nitty gritty details are left unwritten.
The same goes for your relationship. If you never take time to check in on the status of your relationship, you’ll never know if you’re progressing. A string of “WYD” texts, group dates, and weekends full of binge-watching TV won’t do the trick. You need to set a dedicated time to do a pulse check on the relationship. Are you making each other happy? What are some ways you can improve communication? Are you tapping into the needs of your partner’s love language? Have you shared your feelings with your significant other lately? These are the conversations that are best left for one on one date nights versus late night texting.
Advancing your career through professional development.
The day you quit your willingness to learn is when you also give up on getting better at your job. Without professional development your skills get stale. However, if you’re chasing that coveted promotion, you teach yourself something new and valuable for the job, sign up for an online class to expand your expertise, or ask your boss to give you more responsibilities. You do the work and you see the growth.
You can apply that same strategy to building your relationship. When we’re single we spend time reading dating blogs, figuring out how to make our dating app profiles better, and working on our self-care. Once we’re cuffed, we stop putting as much time into all of that. But we shouldn’t. You can always afford to learn more about communication, spicing things up in the bedroom, and balancing the demands of life and love.
Bringing your best self to the office.
You wouldn’t stroll into the office mean mugging your way to your desk because you’re mad about the fight you had with your BFF two days ago. When you want to make a great impression on your colleagues and bosses, you show up lit with excitement. A self-care routine means everything, even to the biggest workaholic, because it helps to show your employer the best version of yourself.
Well, that’s why self-care matters when you're in a relationship too. When you invest the time in self-care, you show up happy and are present in the moment, and that lets your partner know how you feel about them. Make your significant other feel special and wanted by showing up for them the way you would for your dream job.