Megan Campagnolo is the founder of Rosehound Apparel, a Toronto-based brand known for its unique pins and patches. When she's not designing new products for her line, Megan can be found collaborating with artists like Tuesday Bassen and Olivia Mew.
We asked Megan how she stays #onthemend after a breakup and she opened up about how trying new things and stepping out of her comfort zone helped her beat the breakup blues.
If you think back to the first time you were heartbroken, what advice would you give to that younger version of yourself?
"The first time I was heartbroken, I was in grade 10 and my crush/first kiss left me for another girl who was more popular. At the time it really really stung deep...I took solace in music, fashion, writing, all things material that I believed could never leave me in the same way. I found myself through self expression, changed my hair, and began experimenting with more courageous fashion choices. I was determined to be (at the very least) perceived as independent, until I believed it for myself. There is still a bit of 15-year-old me embedded in everything I do. An especially worse scenario happened when I was 23, and I was left single and living out of my studio on a curb-found vinyl couch from the 70's. And this is where I began my roots for Rosehound."
What has heartbreak taught you about yourself?
"It taught me just how much strength you have buried underneath your discouragement. If you force yourself to do something you really don't feel like doing, it always feels worth it in the end. No matter what, you CAN'T give up. It isn't an option. Find what you are good at...and pour your anger and heartache into it."
What are your rituals during a breakup?
"For me, it's working out like a maniac, drawing, and trying new things. Don't get me wrong, it's very important to say "hell nah" to the world for a good week. I stay in bed, cry, yell, eat comfort food, watch TV. Then I have to get out into the world. I try something I've never tried before... I went to a Float Spa the other day when I felt bleak and hopeless about our country's future - which is essentially sitting in a totally dark and quiet tank floating on salt water so thick you can't sink. I like challenging myself to do something that gets me out of my comfort zone, and at the time sitting in a contained dark and still space really helped me. I also make a point to improve myself - I go running, change my hair, try a juice cleanse, make balanced meals and get up early."
Thinking back to breakups you’ve had, did you have any breakup vices (checking your ex’s Insta, etc) and how do you conquer them?
"Oh, I lurk relentlessly. A huge part of breaking up with someone is forcing yourself to change really abruptly. To avoid doing this I try to be around friends as often as possible, and constantly distract myself from my phone and my idle, curious mind. It's so important to really try and understand your feelings in order to move forward, and one of those things is to realize how fragile you are. Stop saying "I'm okay" because you aren't. You need to focus on actually making yourself okay in order to move forward, and finding your creative outlet or goals and focusing on them will help you get there."
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about love so far in your life?
"I was just married a month ago, and when my husband and I met only 5 months ago we had a connection unlike any other. Being with him made me realize that if you have to try, or guess, or feel insecure about your feelings, then you have already lost. Love is a very REAL thing, and when it happens you will know that all of the other practice rounds were nothing in comparison. You need to make sure that you aren't entertaining unworthy or one-sided relationships, and make sure you are available to meet the right person. It DOES happen and I can't stress it enough!"
Do you think exes can be friends? Do you stay friends with your exes on social media?
"I am friends, or at least amicable, with all of my exes. Another thing that helps me move forward is accepting what I liked about my ex (giving myself credit for dating them) as quality traits, and wishing them the best. I try to account for my actions with grace, and communicate openly with them. I don't think that exes can be close friends, but it is pretty healing to think of them in a positive and friendly way."
What keeps your heart open, despite the heartbreaks you’ve had in your life?
"There are so many beautiful places in the world, and states of mind. Getting out there and experiencing things for yourself is really helpful to think about when life feels small and meaningless."
What is your favorite song about heartbreak?
What is your favorite movie about heartbreak?
"Closer. I probably watch it on repeat when I'm in a hopeless mood."