Alli Carter is a Miami-based YouTuber who shares videos of her fashion hauls, personal stories and beauty hacks. When she's not making videos, you can find Alli writing in her journal or trying out a new DIY project.
We asked Alli how she stays #onthemend after a breakup and she opened up about how her faith helps her stay hopeful for future love.
If you think back to the first time you were heartbroken, what advice would you give to that younger version of yourself?
"The advice I would give would probably be: It's not the end of the world. Yes, I know it hurts now and you feel a weird mixture of love and hate. You want them back but all at the same time you never want to hear their name again. But, it gets better. You will look back and see how much you learned from it, and you'll also see how much more you deserve."
What has heartbreak taught you about yourself?
"Heartbreak has taught me how hard I love and how blind I can sometimes be with the people I love."
What are your rituals during a breakup? What things/practices/people helped you mend?
"One of the main thing that helps me mend my heart is music. I love making an "uplifting" playlist and playing it as loud as I can in my room and dancing around. Just some of my favorite tracks that put me in a good mood and help get my mind off things. I also love to pray and ask God to heal my heart. It takes time but I've realized that He gives me all my strength back and comforts me. My biggest human help is my mom. My mom never fails to get my head on straight, tell me to keep my head up high and keep walking."
Thinking back to breakups you’ve had, did you have any breakup vices (checking your ex’s Insta, etc) and how do you conquer them?
"I'm pretty sure every girl has done this at least once or twice, me included. My biggest advice would be to focus on yourself! You can't move on if you continue to creep on their Instagram. Do something that makes you feel good, pick up a new hobby, exercise, read a good book, even try a new hairstyle! And if you still can't help but creep, take a break from Instagram (or the social media you're creeping on)! It never hurts to take a break from the media."
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about love so far in your life?
"Love is a verb, not a noun."
Do you think exes can be friends? Do you stay friends with your exes on social media?
"When it comes to being friends, it really depends on the way the relationship ended. In some cases yes, but in most cases I would say no. I think for a relationship that ended on a decent note, no need to hit unfollow (unless you want to). But friends? It would most likely be awkward and weird. Like I said, it all depends on the relationship."
What keeps your heart open, despite the heartbreaks you’ve had in your life?
"True love lasts forever. My parents are my biggest example of that. I know God has the perfect guy for me one day and that we'll love each other immensely."
What is your favorite song about heartbreak?