I read somewhere in a book buried in my hallway closet that if you're brave enough to love someone you're brave enough to lose them. I highlighted it cause it felt incredibly definitive in its meaning and I like statements that are absolute. But then I lost the book, and I couldn't find the quote, and I kept thinking, what if I'm not brave enough for the in-between? What if I can't read what they advised me to do after? After you love someone. Or after you lose them. Or your mind. Whichever came first.
Lately, it's been a lot of all or nothings. My least favorite place to be. I used to cringe at the thought of living in limbo and then when I realized that living in limbo meant never having to lose anything completely, I didn't hate it so much. There is peace in the unknown. Which is why so many people claim that ignorance is bliss. God was it bliss.
There's still a peace within me currently that I can't explain. It makes about as much sense to me as it does the people who think they know what I should be feeling. Pain. This is the calm before the storm. Never have I known a calm before the calm, so I'm geared up for some pretty tough weather ahead. With that said, if I can hang back, in my tornado shelter and fight off insecurities and abandonment, maybe I'll open up those doors again someday to sunnier skies. Or maybe I'll open them up to a fucked up town of mangled homes and lifeless corpses.
That's the thing, I don't know. If this shit storm is a category one, or a category five, or if it's not even going to strike my path. But, I have to be prepared. For the good and the bad. And just like he told me not to, I wait.
Because no sane human being just doesn't take shelter and stands on the porch staring the storm in the face. And they certainly don't run from it. And they certainly don't stop waiting. This is their home. This is my heart.
The bravery is in the steps it takes to wait it out, while things you can't see are taking its course outside of your control. You wait, and you wait, and then it's over and you make due with what comes out on the other side. Be it wind blown daisies watered heavily but unharmed, or a car turned sideways in your swimming pool. You're alive, cause you waited. You're the same because you caught shelter. And you're there minutes, months, years later with a new perspective on the things in front of you.
I've met a lot of cowards in my lifetime. Not one of them is the girl I face every morning in my bathroom mirror. I am brave because I know there is something to be said about never fearing anything that's even slightly attainable. Because fear sucks the life out of us every second of every day as it is. It keeps us from thriving just enough to not be able to find true love. Or to keep that fire lit long enough to never experience loss.
I want to die quickly and similarly in each other's hearts on our death beds, not on the beds of our dying hope decades prior. Or on the porch of a home amidst a tornado that I refused to seek shelter from because I failed to wait. Or because I waited too long. I want to lose you to the heavens above or the sea below, not to the idea that you aren't good enough, or ready. I stay faithful to my hearts desire while we stumble over the difficulty of unplanned time. And I stay brave enough to learn to love you, even while I'm braving losing you...