#survivorloveletter Honors Abuse Survivors This V-Day


By Gabrielle White

As a much needed counterpoint to rape culture and its treatment of victims of sexual harassment and abuse, the #survivorloveletter project has one simple goal: to create a safe space for survivors and the people who love them to affirm their value and their worth. 

In a world where victim blaming is essentially the norm, founder Tani Ikeda wrote of her project: “#SurvivorLoveLetter was an act of defiance, a declaration of self love and a call to allies to honor the survivors in their lives. I imagined what it would mean for my younger self to wake up on Valentine's Day and read message after message of public support for surviving.”

The letters speak for themselves:

“You are not bipolar or clinically depressed for feeling crazy because your body doesn’t feel like it belongs to you anymore. You don’t need to take pills to stop you from being angry or anxious every time you go home. You are not okay. You don’t have to make any more vision boards, or new years resolutions, or buy self help books to invent new cherry coated versions of your future. You are not okay. You are not okay. You are not okay. But you are fucking courageous.” (Tumblr)

“And if you still love [your abuser] now despite the past, that’s okay too. You’re allowed to love them and hate what they did, it just shows the strength of your heart. 
You will get through this.” (Tumblr)

“To those of you who were told you were 'too sexual' to be a 'real' survivor, I see you. I see you because I am you and I love you." (Tumblr)

This Valentine's Day, you can spread the love via their hashtag, #survivorloveletter. Read more survivor love letters here.

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Gabrielle White

Gabby is a Contributing Editor at Mend. Her ultimate heartbreak cure is a repeat cycle of rooibos tea, puppy snuggles, and salted dark chocolate.


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