When To Seek Help After A Breakup

Everyone experiences heartbreak differently, but there are some symptoms that people tend to have in common: depression, lethargy, and anxiety to name a few. In fact, some instances of heartbreak can be so intense that it leads to a health condition called takotsubo cardiomyopathy, or broken heart syndrome, which is normally triggered by unexpected extreme emotional or physical stress. The sudden release of stress hormones can shock the heart into exhibiting heart failure-like symptoms such as intense chest pain.

And while typically associated with romance, a broken heart can also apply to other kinds of losses such as the death of a family member and losing a job. There are many ways to break your heart, and knowing when to seek help is important if you’re struggling day-to-day.

What heartbreak does to you

Takotsubo cardiomyopathy is rare, but heartbreak, in general, can still be debilitating enough to stop people from effectively going about their daily lives. It can cause numbness and apathy, especially if you’ve invested a lot of time and effort, as it’s your brain’s way of protecting you from experiencing the full effect of the emotional pain. You may also experience depression-like symptoms, including sleeping difficulties, anxiety, loss of interest in daily activities, and concentration problems.

Rumination and intrusive thoughts are also common for those experiencing heartbreak. This is when you obsessively think about your breakup, wondering what went wrong and why it ended. Thoughts of not having been good enough can lower your self-esteem and worsen your mental health. When your heartbreak becomes a chronic hurdle to your daily life, then you may need to seek help. If you’re having trouble going to work or school or completing basic tasks that you need to get done, those are all important signs to notice.

What to do if you’re heartbroken

While there’s no foolproof way of avoiding heartbreak, you can get yourself through the process in a healthy way. Prioritizing self-care will help you recover from the stress a broken heart can bring. For one, you should learn to be aware of your coping mechanisms to gauge if they’re healthy or not, watch out for common signs like a lack of appetite or urge to overeat. Exercise is also a good self-care habit as it produces endorphins that can combat post-breakup withdrawal symptoms.

Part of recovery is also allowing yourself to experience the feelings that come with the breakup to process the events better — a mental health specialist or therapist can help guide you through this process. These professionals are fortunately more accessible now through digital means so you can contact them more conveniently. They also have a better understanding of human behavior, so that they can help you come up with better coping mechanisms. Additionally, their knowledge in social psychology can be used to help you build stronger relationships with your friends and family to further support your recovery. You’ll be able to regain self-esteem as you get used to the feeling of being single again since you’ll realize again that you’re already good enough as you are.

You can also look for more support through healing classes with curriculums made especially to help you recover, such as post-breakup nutrition, letting go of a relationship (and an ex), and even dealing with heartbreak due to infidelity or divorce.

Heartbreak is one of the hardest things we experience, no doubt, and it has a major impact on how we feel emotionally and physically. What’s important is that you don’t rush your recovery and there’s no shame in reaching out if you need help.

Wellness Guide to Paris

Paris may be known as the City of Light, but it’s also quickly becoming a haven for holistic wellness, thanks to a host of new wellbeing destinations, spas, and healthy cafes that have sprung up in recent years.

If you find yourself looking to slow down and mend in Paris and you have a bit of a budget to spend, here are our favorite addresses in the City of Light for practicing self-care and nourishing yourself with healthy and delicious food. If you’re low on budget, you can always grab some take-out from a healthy spot and search for the nearest garden to enjoy a picnic. Our favorite parks for relaxing are Jardin des Tuileries, Jardin du Palais-Royale, Square du Temple, and of course, the most classic option: Jardin du Luxembourg.

Belleyme – Infrared sauna & cafe

One of the few spas to offer infrared sauna therapy in Paris, Belleyme is a gorgeous new destination in the Marais that offers 50-minute infrared sauna sessions in two chic cabins. You can reserve a session online for one or two people at a time. The session includes time for you to use the in-cabin shower and dressing room after your sauna. You may then also want to stay for a healthy snack in their rose-hued cafe (their staff speaks both French and English), which offers a menu of superfood-infused food and healthy drinks.

Belleyme Paris: 8 rue Charles-François Dupuis 75003 Paris

Maison Alaena – Holistic spa & tea room

Perched on the 8th floor of an unassuming high rise on rue de Paradis, this is one of the best-kept secrets for holistic wellness and beauty in Paris right now. With stunning views of Sacre Cour and the Eiffel Tower, this sanctuary-like space offers sunrise and sunset yoga, massages, face and body treatments, micro-nutrition consultations & hammam sessions. Their tea room menu offers both savory and sweet items that are crafted to be low-glycemic, gluten-free, and dairy-free. Their English and French-speaking team will warmly welcome you, and you can reserve both treatments and tea room bookings online.

Maison Alaena: 32 rue de Paradis 75010 Paris

Gynécée – Wellbeing center for women, by women

In the heart of the 9th arrondissement, Gynécée launched in 2020 as “La maison de la femme,” offering a wide-ranging menu of women’s health services and workshops (in French) in a beautiful home-like environment. Their goal is to follow women from puberty to menopause and beyond, with a particular focus on maternity support.

Gynécée: 62 rue blanche, 75009 Paris

House of Yoga (HOY) – Conscious hotel, yoga studio, spa & restaurant

HOY is a new model of hospitality, one that has yoga as its central pillar. The team here focuses on inspiring wellbeing for both Parisians who are stopping through, as well as visitors from afar. In addition to their consciously crafted rooms, HOY offers a yoga studio (the first dark studio in Paris with infrared light), wellness treatments, and Mesa, a Latin-inspired 100% plant-based restaurant.

HOY: 68 Rue des Martyrs, 75009 Paris

And last but not least, here are some of our favorite Paris restaurants and bakeries to find a healthy meal, one that will leave you feeling nourished and satisfied. Most of these restaurants offer predominantly plant-based menus, with gluten-free options. Paris is no longer a city where it is hard to be a vegetarian or vegan and enjoy delicious restaurant food.

Our Favorite Vegan, Vegetarian & Gluten-Free Paris Restaurants:

Jah Jah by Le Tricycle – Afro-vegan food in the 10th arrondisement

Plan D – Vegan street food, sandwiches & ice cream by Canal-Saint Martin

Sol Semilla – Vegan superfood bowls, soups & drinks by Canal-Saint Martin

Apeti – Plant-based, organic & gluten free cafe in the 6th arrondisement

Sapid – Affordable & plant driven menu by chef Alain Ducasse in the 10th arrondisement

La Guingette d’Angele – Local & gluten free cafés by naturopath Angèle Ferreux-Maeght

Judy Market – Balanced & gluten free food by Luxembourg Gardens

Maisie Cafe – Gluten free & vegan cafe by the Jardin des Tuileries

Noglu – Gluten free bakery & cafe with 2 locations in Paris

Land & Monkeys – 100% vegan bakeries with incredible variety

Bon appétit!