Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Being Single & Breakups During Coronavirus

In this new episode of Love Is Like A Plant, Elle and Sarah May talk about how to stay sane if you’re on lockdown by yourself and how to mend if you’re going through a breakup during this pandemic. They also talk about how to deal with urges to reach out to your ex, and how to handle ex thoughts when you’re confined with yourself! We know this is a difficult time, so we’re sending our love to all our listeners and wishing you good health. 

Also, a special announcement: we are recording a LIVE episode with listeners and you’re invited! To join, email hello@letsmend.com.

On The Mend’ Episode 3 Featuring Mereki, Artist & Founder of Be Kind

In this episode of “On The Mend,” Elle interviews singer and founder of Be Kind, Mereki Beach. Elle sat down with Mereki in 2016 to discuss the heartbreak upon heartbreak of losing her father, long-term boyfriend, and grandmother all within a matter of months. It was a rough year, to say the least. The two reunite in this podcast, years later, to reflect on her growth since then in a touching and vulnerable discussion.

Mereki and Elle agreed that grief is a multifaceted beast. It never leaves. The singer discusses how grief has continued to creep up on her when she least expects it, even years after the death of her father. She reveals that post-traumatic growth opens up wounds she thought she already healed from in order to present new ways for her to grow and learn. But there is a silver lining. Grieving and heartbreak build a path of resilience that leads to a stronger person with the ability to build more authentic connections.

This touching story of growth and transformation is one we can all either relate to or learn from. We don’t learn how to cope with grief in school, but we can learn from each other. Mereki gives advice on how to help loved ones who are grieving and also touches on how her grieving process has affected her music, the importance of her friendships, and her fiercely independent reliance on herself. We are so grateful for Mereki’s vulnerability and wisdom, and we know that our Menders can benefit from this episode of “On The Mend.”

You can listen to “On The Mend” on SoundCloud and Apple Podcasts. We’re so excited to bring you more episodes full of life-affirming advice and stories to help you mend.

LILAP Episode: Is Social Media Ruining Your Love Life?

Should you unfollow your ex on social media, block them, or neither? In this episode of “Love is Like a Plant,” Elle and Sarah discuss how to break up with your ex’s social media. It’s best to limit exposure to your ex as much as possible, and although you don’t need to keep them blocked forever, following them definitely hurts your mending process if they’re active online. 

To take it a step further, Sarah even suggests asking your friends not to mention to you when they’ve been tagged in someone else’s posts or like something suspicious. The two also discuss how social media can affect relationships, and really, this applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones.

Is it time for you to take a social media detox for a bit? Listen in to see if it would be something you’re interested in trying to help you mend. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. Follow and share if you like it, and be sure to send it to a friend who could use some time away from social media.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Sex With Your Ex

Why is it so common to have sex with your ex? It leaves us half stuck in the relationship while we’re trying to emotionally detach, but it floods us with hormones and neurotransmitters that make detachment really hard to do. So how do you stop?

Elle and Sarah discuss the very practical reasons why we decide to have sex with an ex in the first place and then discuss how to stop, or how to recover if you’re having a hard time staying away. If you find yourself in that messy situation where you turn to your ex for sex, listen to this podcast to help you understand what exactly is keeping you hooked and how to walk away. You can listen to the episode on Podcasts or SoundCloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Podcast Episode: How To Have A Healthy Long Distance Relationship

Welcome to our last Love Is Like A Plant episode of the 2019 season!

In this episode, we offered a response to a LILAP listener’s question about how to have a healthy long-distance relationship, one where you’re not clinging even though the person is far away. We shared a few really important strategies for healthy relationships in this episode that are helpful whether you’re in an LDR or not.

We’re thankful for each of you and we’re looking forward to sharing new episodes this year!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: How To Make It Through The Holidays!

It’s perfectly normal to feel alone during the holidays. It should be a time of love and happiness but it can also be the time when you miss your ex the most.

This episode of LILAP is for anyone who is feeling a little lonely during the holidays this year. Elle and Sarah May talk about what to do if you’re solo this year, and how to thrive during the holiday season. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year from us to you! <3

Dating Someone Older Than Yourself: The Pros And Cons

Have you ever dated someone older? In this episode of LILAP, Elle and Sarah May talk about the benefits and challenges of dating someone older. They discuss the concept of people “re-entering the dating pool” after a first marriage or kids, and they also talk about what to look out for when you’re dating someone older. Sarah shares her perspective on marrying someone younger, and they both discuss what to look out for in dating regardless of age.

If you like this episode, be sure to subscribe and give 5 stars on iTunes so more listeners can find LILAP.

What To Do If You’re Jealous When It Comes To Exes

Jealousy can ruin a relationship over time, and it can also cause so much stress in the moment. Exes are a point of stress for many couples, and social media doesn’t make it any easier. Have you ever struggled with feeling jealous about someone’s ex (or exes) or overprotective of the person you’re dating?

In this episode of LILAP, Elle and Sarah talk about how to deal with your partner’s exes (or your ex’s exes!), and what to do if their relationship rubs you the wrong way. They also discuss red flags, ultimatums and what it might mean if you’re jealous of your SO’s exes.

On The Mend Episode 4 Featuring Jerico Mandybur

In our newest episode of On The Mend, Elle sat down with Jerico Mandybur, award-winning author, coach, and former Editorial Director of Girlboss. They discuss the importance of taking care of yourself in the limbo period of your twenties to find what works for you and what doesn’t, particularly in terms of self care. Jerico teaches us about a self care practice she found really works for her, Reiki. She describes it as a sort of magical transfer of energy for calming and healing. Elle also has experience with Reiki, so definitely listen in to learn more about it!

The two also chat about Jerico’s move from Australia to LA, her interest in spells, magic, and tarot cards, and how she built resilience from homesickness when she left her home country to start a new life. You can listen to the episode on Podcasts or Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

New Year, New Episode of Love is Like a Plant!

Happy New Year, Menders! Elle and Sarah B have just released a new podcast episode of “Love is Like a Plant”. It’s the first one of the year and also their three year podcast anniversary! 

Have you reviewed your previous year yet? It’s so important to reflect on how life has been going for you. Sarah B and Elle encourage everyone to examine what makes them happiest based on what they learned the previous year, so that your goals really help you to grow on multiple levels, not just based on future success. They also stress the importance of being deliberate about making room for the things you may have missed out on and pushed aside, like building strong social support with family and friends. Sometimes, this may mean you have to alter your lifestyle, but it’s definitely a worthwhile change!

Find out the drastic change Elle made in order to implement her New Year’s resolution, and learn how fighting her reflexes is creating time in her life. Find out how journaling helps Sarah B to stop drifting with the flow and start being more intentional about where she is going. If you’ve ever wondered about the power of manifestation, Elle is a huge advocate and tells you exactly why that is in this new episode of “Love is Like a Plant”! You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud, and be sure to send it to a friend who could use some advice on creating happiness in the New Year.

Elle Talks Heartbreak History, Starting Mend, And More On ‘That’s What She Said’ Podcast

Get ready to get up close and personal with Elle in the most recent episode of “That’s What She Said,” a podcast by Therese Barbato where she has conversations with women about love.

When she recently joined “That’s What She Said” podcast as a guest, Elle got personal about her own background and current love life. In the episode, she talks about how she’s always been fascinated by people, opens up about her parents’ divorce, and even discusses the break up that started it all. The history and science that she cites answer interesting questions, like what coping mechanisms she used before building Mend, what coping mechanisms you need instead, and why older couples pass away in eerily close time proximity to each other.

In the second half of the conversation, Elle and Therese talk about whether or not to wallow after a breakup, the dangers of “sharking” (which means to always move forward and never look back), the birth of Mend, and how her own app actually helped her through a breakup earlier this year. If you’ve ever wondered why our culture likes to hide heartbreak, how to know when you’re in a peak relationship that helps you transcend into the best you, and what people have inspired Elle’s education on romance, this is for you.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: What To Do When Your Breakup Is Dragging Out

Some breakups are cut and dry; the relationship is over cold turkey. And then there are those that drag out. You’re not together, you’re not working on getting back together, you’re just communicating and fanning the flames of hope. But how does that play into your ability to get through the breakup and move forward with your new life?

In this episode of “Love Is Like A Plant” Elle and Sarah respond to one listener’s concern with her dragged out breakup. They each offer advice for the best way to work towards healing after a breakup and how communication with your ex affects that. If you find yourself still texting your ex, you’ll want to listen to this episode. You can listen to the episode on Spotify, iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: A Positive Outlook

When we think about what we want in a partner, we consider qualities such as goal-oriented, kind, and funny, among other things. But, we might be overlooking a key quality that could have a major effect on our relationship: a positive outlook. Our partner’s mindset can very much affect the health of a relationship.

In this episode of “Love Is Like A Plant” Elle and Sarah discuss why dating someone who has a positive outlook is important, and how your relationship can be negatively affected if your partner always sees the cup half empty. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Defining The Relationship

Defining the relationship (DTR) can be a stressful conversation to initiate. You might never feel comfortable being that vulnerable, but going forward with that conversation is a crucial step in any relationship. Without doing so, you could be prolonging heartbreak.

In this episode of “Love Is Like A Plant” Elle and Sarah explore when and how to define the relationship. They share some valuable advice on how to kick off that conversation and what to consider if you try to DTR and it doesn’t yield the response you wanted. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Don’t Settle

When you’re a creature of comfort, it’s daunting to imagine leaving the relationship you’re so used to, even if it’s not one that fills your life with joy. In order to go forward on the path toward a truly rewarding relationship, you have to be willing to step out of the way. If you’re struggling to determine whether you’re settling in a relationship or not, you’ll want to listen to this week’s podcast.

In this episode of “Love Is Like A Plant” Elle and Sarah tackle a loaded question: should you settle? First, they break down how to know if you’re settling and later share some tips on how to break free from that. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Microcheating

Have you found yourself feeling a way about your partner’s flirtatious behavior? Does it hit a nerve when they wish an ex a happy birthday on Facebook? These are some scenarios that can be classified as microcheating.

What defines cheating is often very personal, which is why it’s so important to share your boundaries with your partner. But what do you classify as microcheating? And how do you go about dealing with it in your relationship? In this episode of “Love Is Like A Plant” Elle and Sarah dig into what’s considered microcheating and whether or not it can shake a relationship. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

The Best Self Care Podcasts To Listen To

“Self-care” can mean many things, from relaxation to self-improvement. In a world of unending podcasts, we’ve gathered a few that have helped Team Mend through tough times and given us that breath of fresh air we needed. If you’re ready to take your self-care up a notch, get your headphones ready for these episodes.

1. “Thirst Aid Kit”

For some, self-care can come in the form of laughter. Nichole Perkins and Bim Adewunmi are writers in New York City who share one thing in common: a thirst for males. While their podcast is not directly about self-care, listening to this podcast is an act of self-service. Each week, they go in-depth and explore the complexities of one male heartthrob in Hollywood. And it’s more than just hot guys. It’s a deep dive into the personalities, characteristics, and inner reasons why we thirst after these particular men, who range in ethnicity, age, accents, and more.

The best episode for new listeners is “Chris Evans (feat. Chris Evans).” Most of the time, the two talk about a guy, but this time, they talk to the actual Chris Evans on the phone. Let’s just say that it will make you giggle on a public bus (which indeed happened to me).

2. “Anna Faris is Unqualified”

Anna Faris, from “Scary Movie” and “Mom,” is your new best friend. Her bright humor translates perfectly in “Anna Faris is Unqualified,” which has seen so much success that it transitioned from podcast to radio. Each week, Faris and co-host Sim Sarna interview a celebrity about the ups and downs of their career and personal lives. At the end of their conversations, they get real callers on the phone and give advice. Usually, it’s about relationships, but it can sometimes be about friendships, a new job, etc. This podcast is more than just a celebrity talking to another celebrity. Faris isn’t afraid to dive into the tough parts about being an actor and the mental health consequences she’s faced in a toxic industry. But you don’t have to be an actor to identify with these episodes. A personal favorite is when Nick Jonas came on and dished all the dirt on his life post-Jonas Brothers.

3. “The Hilarious World of Depression”

Another way to talk about depression is through comedy. Host John Moe brings funny people onto his podcast every week to talk about their journeys with mental health and what brings them out of their dark places. A favorite episode of mine features Rachel Bloom, a comedian who has been open and honest about her mental health struggles. Her openness led to her show “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” and she doesn’t hold back in this engaging conversation with Moe.

4. “Therapy for Black Girls”

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford is a psychologist in Georgia who wants you to live your best life. She brings her best therapy tips to each episode and acknowledges the complex intersection of struggling with mental health and being a woman of color. One of her most popular episodes is “Managing Social Anxiety,” something many people can identify with in 2018.

5. “Sad Boyz”

Self-care isn’t just for the girls. “Sad Boyz” is a comedy podcast about feelings. Each week, Jordan and Jarvis, two guys in tech in San Francisco, discuss everything from mental health to toxic masculinity to Post Malone. With little bits of pop culture sliced into each episode and one host with a smooth British accent, “Sad Boyz” takes important topics, dissects them, and ends each session on a happy note. If you’re looking for a laugh, your two new best friends are right here.

6. “On Being with Krista Tippett”

A personal favorite of Mend CEO Elle Huerta, “On Being” is hosted by Krista Tippett, a journalist and former diplomat who interviews people from all different walks of life. She asks questions about the secrets to living a good life and what it means to be alive. With a focus on spirituality (in a not-necessarily religious sense), she has interviewed philosophers, physicists, and everyone in between to find out how to live well.

7. “Self-Service with Jerico Mandybur”

The Girlboss Radio network is strong with self-care. The brand’s second podcast is from Girlboss editorial director Jerico Mandybur, who is more than familiar with the stress of millennial workaholics (to prove it, when the Australian writer moved to America, she was diagnosed with blood poisoning almost immediately). In this episode, she sat down with our founder Elle to talk a little bit about building Mend.

8. “Love is Like A Plant”

And how can we forget our own podcast! “Love is Like A Plant” is a one-on-one session with Elle about her personal experiences dealing with a breakup and the different ways she dug herself out of it. If you love the app, you’ll love the podcast. And if you love the podcast, you’ll definitely love Mend. If you’re a first-time listener, a good place to start is “How To Get Your Ex Back,” a popular episode among our Menders.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Is It Harder To Leave, Or To Be Left?

Love Is Like A Plant is back! We were on hiatus this fall while Sarah welcomed a new human into her life (congrats, Sarah and Adam!) but we are excited to be back with today’s episode where we ask the question: Is it harder to leave, or be left?

Elle and Sarah pull from their own experiences and talk about all of the layers of emotions involved with leaving someone. You can listen to the episode on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, be sure to share it with a friend and subscribe to get future episodes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: How To Love Someone And Not Lose Yourself

This week’s episode is called Together but Alone: How to Love Someone but Not Lose Yourself and this is a topic that is so important!

You can listen to it on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, let us know by giving it a 5 star review and subscribe to get future episodes. That would mean the world to us.

Some of our favorite moments from the conversation:

Why we think it’s important to maintain a sense of self when you are in a relationship

How to make sure you’re feeding your individual interests

The ways we personally take of ourselves when we’re in relationships

What to do when the person you’re with needs more or less alone time than you

What we think are the two most important things in a relationship

We’d love to hear from you too: do you agree with us? do you disagree with us? how do you not lose yourself in a relationship? Email us at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com and we’ll feature you in a future episode!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: What Toxic Habits You Should Avoid In Relationships

In this episode of Love Is Like A Plant, Elle and Sarah May talk about things to avoid if you want to improve the health of your relationship. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this is a great episode to check in with your own habits and reflect on ways you can grow. 

If you like our podcast, be sure to subscribe, tell your friends and leave us a review in iTunes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Why We Ghost People And What To Do If You’ve Been Ghosted

Let’s face it, we all know someone who has ghosted or been ghosted (including ourselves).

In this episode of LILAP, Sarah May and Elle talk about how to deal with GHOSTING, “the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.” (Thanks, urbandictionary.com)

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: What To Do When Someone Tells You They Don’t Love You Anymore

It happens: people fall out of love. So what happens next? How can you put yourself back together if someone tells you they don’t love you, but you still love them? And if this happens in committed relationships and marriages, should you stick it out and work things out, or walk away?

In this episode of LILAP, Sarah May and Elle talk about how to deal with the pain of falling out of love.

Love Is Like A Plant: What Are The Red Flags To Look For When You Date?

Do you pay attention to red flags in relationships? What should you look for and avoid when you’re dating?

In the latest episode of Love Is Like A Plant, Elle and Sarah May share their top red flags and what to do when they happen with someone you’re seeing.

If you like LILAP, please subscribe for future episodes and leave us a review on iTunes!

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Are You Scared Of Being Alone?

Does the thought of breaking up with your S.O. send you in a panic even if you’re not sure they’re the right person? Are you stuck in a mediocre relationship because you would rather not be alone?

In this week’s episode of Love is like a plant, Elle and Sarah May talk about what to do if your fear of being alone is holding you back.

Check it out on iTunes or Soundcloud! If you like it, please subscribe for future episodes and leave us a review on iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Should You Wait For Your Soul Mate?

Do you believe in soul mates? Should you wait until you find the perfect one? What if you aren’t sure?

These are the questions Elle and Sarah May answer in the latest episode of LILAP: “Soul Mates: Should You Hold Out To Meet Your Soul Mate?” If you like this episode be sure to subscribe and share with your friends!  You can listen to this episode on iTunes too .

Love Is Like a Plant Episode: How To Keep A Relationship Fresh

Do you close the door when you pee? How can you keep the spark alive? Is there such a thing as being too close?

These are the questions Elle and Sarah May answer in the latest episode of LILAP: “How To Keep It Fresh: Can A Relationship Be Too Intimate?” They also talk about how to keep things interesting in a relationship, and whether or not there is such a thing as being “too intimate.” If you like this episode be sure to leave a 5-star review, subscribe and share it with your friends.

You can listen to this episode on iTunes too.

Love Is Like a Plant Episode: What To Do When It Hurts To Be Single

We know it can be an eye-rolling moment when someone says being single is awesome, but the truth is: sometimes it really is awesome. Sometimes it’s not awesome. Today, Elle and Sarah May talk about both sides and in between.

Check it out: “Being Single: Why It Doesn’t Suck + What To Do When It Hurts.” You can also listen to this episode on iTunes – be sure to subscribe for new episodes.

We’ve been experimenting with shorter, more casual episodes. Let us know what you think! If you enjoy LILAP, we would really appreciate if you took 2 seconds right now to leave a 5-star review on iTunes.

Love Is Like a Plant Episode: How to Get Your Ex Back

We’ve received a few requests to talk about getting back together with exes. So here you have it…The Ex Episode. This one goes out to all of the people out there who’ve ever searched “how to get my ex back” on Google.

In it, Elle and Sarah May talk about getting back together with exes, whether exes can be friends and what to do when you miss your ex.

If you enjoy LILAP, we would really appreciate it if you took 2 seconds right now to leave a rating on iTunes. Yayyy, ratings!

PS What to do when someone won’t commit + 3 tips for dating in the age of Tinder

Love Is Like a Plant Episode: Setting Boundaries in Relationships

What if you really like porn but your partner thinks porn is like cheating? What if your SO goes to a strip club? Is that off limits?

In this week’s episode, Elle and Sarah May talk about why boundaries are important and what to do when your boundaries don’t align. We also share the key to talking about boundaries so that it brings you closer together, not further apart.

If you enjoy LILAP, we would really appreciate it if you took 2 seconds right now to rate us on iTunes. Thank you to ‘JoJenAlexp’ and ‘lmontas’ for sharing some 5-star love with us.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Why Do People Get Married?

This week’s episode is part two of Elle and Sarah May’s exploration of marriage. Listen to part one here, where they talked about polyamory and whether marriage is becoming obsolete. They also tackle a difficult thing many people face: what to do when someone doesn’t want to get married.

Give it a listen and let us know what you think at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com. We want to hear your questions and talk about the topics that matter most to you, so write to us! If you like the episode, subscribe to get future episodes and leave us a 5-star review in iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: How To Stop Being Jealous

In this week’s episode of Love is like a plant, Elle and Sarah May talk about a little thing called jealousy.

If you’re feeling jealous of your ex after a breakup, or you’re struggling with jealousy in a relationship, this episode is for you.

And there’s a revenge story about anchovies too…yikes.

Give it a listen and let us know what you think at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com. We want to hear your questions and talk about the topics that matter most to you, so write to us! If you like the episode, subscribe to get future episodes and leave us a 5-star review in iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: What To Do When Someone Won’t Commit

Commitment (or lack thereof) is one of the top reasons people break up, and it’s a painful one. When two people aren’t on the same page about commitment, it can cause a lot of heartbreak.

In today’s episode of Love is like a plant, Elle and Sarah May and talk about what to do when someone won’t commit and why it can be so hard to walk away. They also talk about why people are afraid to commit, and what it might mean.

Some topics they cover:

Whether timing is a valid excuse for breaking up

What it means when someone is sending mixed signals

What to do when you’re not getting the commitment you want

Give it a listen and let us know what you think at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com. We want to hear your questions and talk about the topics that matter most to you, so write us! If you like the episode, subscribe to get future episodes and leave us a 5-star review in iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Why We Cheat And What to Do about It

This week’s episode is all about infidelity, which is one of the top reasons people end relationships. Why do people cheat? And can relationships survive infidelity?

Some topics covered in the episode were:

Why people cheat (hint: it’s not always about sex)

How to not take it personally if someone cheats on you

Whether or not you should stay after someone cheats

The question you should ask yourself and your partner about infidelity before it happens

Give it a listen and let us know what you think at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com. We want to hear your questions and talk about the topics that matter most to you, so write us! If you like the episode, subscribe to get future episodes and leave us a 5 star review in iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: The Changing Nature of Marriage

This week’s episode is all about MARRIAGE. How has marriage evolved? What are the reasons people get married? Are there other ways of being in relationships?

Some topics covered in this episode:

Whether marriage is becoming obsolete and why

Non-marriage relationship structures that are becoming popular: polyamory + serial monogamy

The key to any healthy relationship, whether you’re married or not

Check it out and let us know what you think at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com. We want to hear your questions and talk about the topics that matter most to you, so let us know. And if you like the episode, subscribe and leave us a 5 star review in iTunes.

Love Is Like A Plant Episode: Tips for Dating And Finding Love On Appst

This new episode is all about dating, so if you’re nervous to date after a breakup, or you’re dating and needing some encouragement, you’ll love Elle and Sarah May’s chat.

You can listen to it on iTunes or on Soundcloud. If you like it, let us know by giving it a 5-star review and subscribe to get future episodes.

Some topics covered in this episode:

Why it’s the most exciting time to be dating!
Why you should join dating apps
Recommendations for putting yourself out there after heartbreak
The important things to look for in a person when you’re dating

We hope you enjoy it. We’d love to hear from you too: what are your tips? what apps do you use and love? Email us at loveislikeaplant@gmail.com.