The Loneliness of the Long Distance Breakup


As James Baldwin said: “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, or who had ever been alive."

Sharing your story is an important part of healing (it's called ""emotional disclosure"" in psychology), whether you share with a friend, journal or therapist. It's also important to hear these stories because you will see that someone else has been there; someone else has made it through, and so will you.

This week's roundup of stories...

"When you’re looking for an answer from someone else who hurt you, their response will never feel like enough. They’re never going to give you exactly what you need. Because what you need is within yourself. You need to forgive them and set yourself free from the past, so you can fully enjoy the present."

-Nikki on our search for closure (

"When I first fell for you, I thought the world revolved around you. Some days I still think it does, but I am slowly realizing that there are things in this world more important than waiting for you to decide that you want to commit to me. "

-Logan on the important things she rediscovered after a breakup (

"The night my ex and I broke up, we slept together. It’s not what you think. For eight months, we’d been flying back and forth across the country to see each other, eight months of time-zone-complicated late-night conversations, when I would wake at 2 a.m. Eastern to hear his voice from the West Coast. After all, that's what you do when deep in the mind-altering heat of a long-distance relationship."

-Jen on the loneliness of the long distance breakup (