Why Creating A Routine Can Help You Mend


By Laura Yates

So often we feel stuck in heartbreak because we’re allowing life to happen around us. We might eat foods that don’t really fuel us and give us the energy we need, watch bad TV, scroll on social media and not realize the negative impact this has on our ability to mend. We feel detached and our creativity is stifled.

Creating a routine is a really fantastic way to help yourself feel more connected. To the world, nature, other people and most importantly, yourself. It gives you more physical and emotional energy.

Nourishing and supportive routines really do help frame our lives. A routine doesn’t have to be regimented and boring either! It’s all about finding one that works for you, that you love and that you won’t want to deviate from. When you do, your life will change in so many wonderful ways.

The morning is a great place to start because how you begin your day sets the tone for the rest of it. It can be so easy to wake up and immediately check your email and social media - it can even become addictive. So we definitely recommend putting healthier habits in place of that. It could be meditating, journaling, spending time with your partner, family or pet, playing calming music, yoga, stretching or reading. Anything that feeds your soul and where you feel more connected to yourself.

Routines are also about creating an environment of order. They only need to be simple such as making your bed, making coffee, unloading the dishwasher and preparing a healthy breakfast. Being completely mindful and immersed in the task as you’re doing it.

Your routines should continue throughout the day too. Depending on your typical schedule, finding times in your day to have consistent structure can really make you feel less like you’re flailing around in the dark every day, waiting to feel better. Your day becomes more purposeful and you feel much more productive - like you’re creating momentum. This will have such a great impact on how you feel emotionally.

Mend was specifically created with daily trainings to help people incorporate a sense of routine. The app also encourages you to carry out a series of daily tasks such as journaling, recording how you feel and what progress you’re making. Menders who use the app find this really helps and encourages them to create their own routines throughout their whole day.

Remember, as you establish routines and rituals into your days, if something doesn’t feel good, you can always adjust. There are no rules and your personal routine is designed to make you feel safe, supported and whole. So don’t be afraid to switch it up and experiment.

Routines and rituals that empower you are the key parts of healing and living a life that you love. The parts are completely up to you - so how will you mend?

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Laura Yates

Laura is a coach, writer and speaker specialising in helping people to bounce back, relieve stress in their lives, heal and transform their everyday. Laura has been featured in VICE, Glamour, Match.com, Eharmony and the Daily Mail plus others.

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