Thanksgiving is almost here and although the holidays represent joy and appreciation, this is also a big season for breakups. There's even a name for breakups that happen around Thanksgiving: the turkey drop.
And it's easy to understand why breakups might happen more often during the holidays. As wonderful as they are, Thanksgiving and the winter holidays can also be sources of added pressure and stress, especially when people start asking you about your relationship status.
So if you find yourself in this situation, you are certainly not alone. Plus, there are many ways that you can still make this Thanksgiving a positive one. Here are some tips and advice to help you along the way.
1. Think about the true meaning of Thanksgiving
While you have every right to feel sad, try to remember that Thanksgiving is about being grateful for what you do have, not what you don't. Connect with friends and family on a deeper level this year. Be sure to make time for your friends and family. They are the ones who will ultimately help you through this hard time, so spend extra time making them feel special, heard, loved and understood. Giving to others in this way can really pick you up out of a sad mood.
2. Create new Thanksgiving rituals for yourself
You may be tempted to compare this year to previous ones with your ex. Those memories are to be honored, but right now, focus your attention on creating something meaning that feels special, nurturing and joyful to you. What can you do differently this year to mark a new memory? Perhaps host a get together with your close friends, volunteer, or set new positive intentions for yourself. Try something new that represents you embracing a new chapter.
3. Channel your energy into something new
Even though Thanksgiving is just one day, it can allow you an opportunity to try out a new hobby even before New Years. Start early! Maybe it's learning a new language, trying a new sport, or immersing yourself in a subject that fascinates you. There are so many free resources that you can delve into if you’re not sure where to start. Keep in mind that participating in activities where you can connect with others can distract you from your breakup in a positive way. Think about what inspires you and go from there!
Although it may feel hard right now, this is a wonderful opportunity to bring the focus back to yourself and those around you.