If you’ve been feeling jaded when it comes to dating, the New Year is a perfect time to think about how you might want to change things up. Here are some tips on how to date with fresh eyes in the New Year.
1. Give Yourself A Break
It may seem counterintuitive but sometimes you just need to give yourself a rest from dating if it’s making you unhappy, stressed, or if you’re feeling burned out. If you’re worried about missing out on potential opportunities, just know that taking a break doesn’t have to mean completely shutting yourself off to new people. It just means bringing the focus back to yourself and what makes you happy. Taking a dating hiatus gives you a chance to reflect back on what hasn’t worked and how you might want to change things in the future.
2. Change Up Your Routine
Changing the way you date can give a whole new perspective. If you're active on dating apps and you’ve been checking your messages in the evening, try doing this at a different point in the day. It'll give you more time for self-care at night. It’s also easy to get into the habit of using the same apps or going to the same places to meet people - it may be time to try one or two new places.
3. Don't Stress About Finding "The One"
Dating should be exciting, but a big part of why it's so stressful is that we put so much pressure on ourselves to meet "the one" within a specific time frame. Try and look at this differently. Even if you don’t meet the perfect match, there’s always room to learn something new from someone. If you approach dating with a more open mind, then it can take some of the pressure off and make it more enjoyable.
At the end of the day, remember that it's important to be gentle with yourself and give yourself time - you have the whole year ahead of you. Happy New Year!