After a breakup, your bedroom can sometimes feel like the last place you want to spend time in. It might have represented your romantic refuge that now only triggers painful memories of how things were.
So, if you're feeling this way, it's okay. Let yourself feel sad. And then take a deep breath and remind yourself that you have the power to reclaim your space and make it a sanctuary. Creating a nurturing and feel-good environment is an incredibly cathartic way to help you heal after a breakup. Plus, it helps you get your creative juices flowing, which is good for the soul.
Here are 8 ways to make your bedroom as cozy as possible post-breakup.
1. Start with a positive intention.
Instead of seeing this as something to feel sad about, try and approach it as a new chapter. Of course, it’s more than okay to feel sadness at letting the past go but try to also harness any shred of excitement about making your space one you are going to love and attract happiness into.
Set an intention with yourself, like "I know this is hard, but I want to bring more beauty and tranquility into my room." (insert whatever attributes are important to you - maybe you want more fun, color, serenity, art, plant life, open space, etc)
2. Clear out any reminders of your ex
Creating a fresh space is all about clearing out those old memories of your ex. If you’re not ready to throw things away, you can store them elsewhere out of sight instead. The aim is to make room for new and fresh mementos that make you feel like you and happy. So, any photos, gifts, clothes, books, music that belong to your ex or trigger memories of him/her, replace with pieces that remind you of all the things in your life right now that bring you love and joy. Photos of friends and family, artwork, flowers, candles, books that you love to read.
3. Make your room a reflection of YOU
A big benefit of being single is that it gives you opportunity to be completely selfish when it comes to your space. So have fun and experiment with the design - what colors do you want to incorporate? What sort of textures and furnishings? How would you like to arrange the space?
Looking on Pinterest can be a great place to begin for inspiration and it doesn’t have to be expensive either. Accents here and there will do the job if you don’t want to spend too much money.
4. Invest in new bedding
Fresh new bedding is an instant way to revamp your bedroom and start fresh. If you’re going to spend money on making your room cozy, definitely allocate some to beautiful bedding. After all, your bed is where you spend half your time and the more comfortable and appealing your bedding feels and looks, the better quality sleep you’ll have too - very important post-breakup.
Tip: We love Parachute Home for sheets, towels and home goods.
5. Give your bedroom (or a wall) a fresh coat of paint
If where you live allows and if you're feeling up for a DIY project, a fresh coat of paint can make a big difference. If your place feels dark, it's a good idea to choose a light and uplifting color to give your room an airy, new and spacious feel, but again, it’s about choosing a color that you love. Dark walls can be especially luxurious and cocoon-like - just check out Jo Goddard's old bedroom.
6. Hygge-fy your home
As we're moving into a colder season, this is a great time to add in some hygge and comforting soft furnishings. Cozy cushions, blankets, rugs and throws will make you feel nurtured, and also soften any echoes that might make your place feel sterile.
7. Buy yourself flowers
Flowers are an instant way to give your room a feel-good boost. You don’t have to wait for someone else to buy you them either. Treating yourself to flowers on the regular if you love them, is all part of a self care practice. If flowers aren’t your thing, candles and incense can also be a lovely way to create a relaxing atmosphere, especially in the evening.
8. Create a sacred space
Whether it’s for meditation, journaling, reading or just time out from your busy schedule, have a designated place (maybe it's a corner, or just one cushion) in your room where you can relax and enjoy some real quality time alone.
We'd love to hear from you! What are your tips for making a bedroom cozy?