How to Deal with Friendship Breakups


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As James Baldwin said: “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, or who had ever been alive."

Sharing your story is an important part of healing (it's called ""emotional disclosure"" in psychology), whether you share with a friend, journal or therapist. It's also important to hear these stories because you will see that someone else has been there; someone else has made it through, and so will you.

This week's roundup of stories...


"Why did it take me so long to admit that being friends with her made me feel awful? Why did I run from the confrontation? And why did I care more about what the friendship looked like to other people than what it actually was?"

-Carey on breaking up with her best friend of 15 years (

"A few months after my BFF and I stopped talking, I broke up with my first serious boyfriend. As tough as it was, it was nothing on losing my pal."

-Radhika on how losing a friendship was harder than losing a romantic relationship (

"Then I realized that I was crying because I had figured out that Molly and I were never going to speak to each other again; this time, when she called or emailed me after a month, or six months or a year, I was not going to pick up the phone or email her back. Right now, right here on the street, I was giving up. Finally."

-Jean on the moment she realized she had to breakup with her best friend (

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