Steffy Degreff is the New York-based blogger behind Steffy’s Pros + Cons, where she shares fashion tips, travel posts, and updates on her experience with motherhood. We asked Steffy for her take on heartbreak and she opened up about how staying focused on yourself can help you heal your heart.
If you think back to the first time you were heartbroken, what advice would you give to that younger version of yourself?
“Don’t let a teenage guy destroy your faith in love.”
What has heartbreak taught you about yourself?
“That I deserve much more than I ever thought I did as a teenager.”
What are your rituals during a breakup? What things/practices/people helped you mend?
“I focus on myself, start a new exercise routine and try to meet as many new people as possible.”
Thinking back to breakups you’ve had, did you have any breakup vices (checking your ex’s Insta, etc) and how do you conquer them?
“Oh yes, the last time I went through a breakup was long before IG (been with my husband for about 9 years) but I definitely checked ex’s Facebook pages far too much.”
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about love so far in your life?
“Every relationship has ups and downs, but it’s important to focus on the big picture and make sure you and your partner are on the same page for all of the long term things.”
Do you think exes can be friends? Do you stay friends with your exes on social media?
“No I don’t. It’s not a fair thing to do to your new partner.”
What keeps your heart open, despite the heartbreaks you’ve had in your life?
“I truly believe in love, and I’m a hopeless romantic.”
What is your favorite song about heartbreak?