#howimend Lisa Linh On Finding Strength After A Breakup



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By Kate Paguinto



Lisa Linh is an LA based fashion and lifestyle blogger who is the ultimate definition of a #BossBabe. When she's not taking photographs or updating her site, Lisa is traveling or collaborating with brands like Target, Rebecca Minkoff and Topshop. 

Her site byLisaLinh features fun fashion inspiration, travel diaries and personal posts about love, relationships and following your dreams. Today, Lisa gave us some insight into her breakup rituals and what heartbreak has taught her about love.

If you think back to the first time you were heartbroken, what advice would you give to that younger version of yourself?

"To my younger self, I would tell her that while it hurts and it’s going to hurt for a while, that this is for the best. She may not realize it now, but she will learn a great deal about relationships and herself from this heartbreak that will make her a stronger and wiser person later on."

What has heartbreak taught you about yourself?

"It’s shown me how strong I can be and that obstacles will always occur, but getting through this phase helps you grow immensely as a person and teaches you things about yourself that you wouldn’t realize alone."

What are your rituals during a breakup?

"Surrounding myself with friends and burying myself in work is my first step. I tend to go out more and stay out of the house to prevent myself from thinking too much about the breakup. My best friends always know how to cheer me up so I rely heavily on them; they never fail. I eventually channel all my emotions to my passions for writing and photography, allowing myself to express how I feel through my creative outlets helps as well."

Thinking back to breakups you’ve had, did you have any breakup vices (checking your ex’s Insta, etc) and how do you conquer them?

"I think it is natural wanting to check on what your ex is doing, especially after breaking up. You spent so much time with this person and now, they’re off living their own life – without you. I’ve checked my ex’s social media before, checked our mutual friend’s as well just to see if I see him in it. It takes time, but you eventually get over it and stop caring. There’s no guaranteed way to conquer them, you just have to be ready on your own terms."

What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about love so far in your life?

"Love conquers all."

Do you think exes can be friends? Do you stay friends with your exes on social media?

"In due time, I think it is possible. I’m friends with a couple on social media but I never actually hang out with them."

What keeps your heart open, despite the heartbreaks you’ve had in your life?

"Knowing that love is the one thing you can give and get back, time after time. The feeling of being loved and loving someone is incomparable. That alone keeps me hopeful about love."

What is your favorite movie about heartbreak?

"A Walk To Remember"

What projects are you currently working on, and looking forward to most?

"Currently working on a handful of holiday campaigns, editorials for January through March, and trips!"

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Kate Paguinto

Kate is a Content Strategist and co-owner of Dizzy Cactus. She likes puns, Wes Anderson, and the Oxford comma.

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