What To Tell Yourself When You Feel Like You'll Never Meet Someone


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It’s going to happen. Your parents say it, your friends say it, magazines, self help books and memes all say it. You have to kiss a lot of frogs. There are plenty of fish in the sea. All these sayings that basically mean "don’t give up." This painful time you’re dealing with is par for the course in this wild world of meeting people.

No matter how much your heart has been gutted before, you can still hurt in new ways. But, you can also feel joy and warmth more profoundly than ever before.

You thought you’d never get better, never feel the pain less acutely, never be able to feel something for someone again.

But you know what? If you’re hurting now, it means you care. And that’s progress.

You’ll care for someone deeply again, and want them to take your face in their hands, and look at you in that way, like they can’t believe you’re real. They'll text you the unprovoked “I miss you,” “I love you,” and “I can’t wait to see you.” They will do all of these things, and more. You can’t even anticipate the “more.”

You won’t always feel this emotionally starved. Just because this most recent dating episode rekindled an ember of pain you thought had almost died out, it’s also reawakened you. Use this to keep going.

Keep healing and growing and loving yourself. Every ounce of energy and love you put into yourself will pay off in dividends and reinforce your roots. Keep going, keep growing.

Someone better for you is out there, and you’ll find each other (possibly with a few someones who are wrong for you in the process). But keep going and keep growing.

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