When you’ve been in a long-term relationship, the thought of being single can be a little daunting. Dating may seem unfamiliar and may be intimidating in the app world, but just remember that they’re simply another way of meeting people. Try not to see them as an obstacle.
At the end of the day, the principle of dating is still the same; it’s about two people meeting to see if they have a connection. Dating apps like Bumble, Tonight, and Coffee Meets Bagel have changed the rules of the game, but it’s still the same game.
Here are a few tips if you’re new to the world of dating apps:
1. Schedule Time
Using apps can take a lot of time if you don’t plan ahead, so it’s good to set aside a specific amount of time each day to dedicate to swiping and messaging (or however the app works). Whether you set aside 15 minutes or an hour, do whatever feels healthy and manageable to you.
2. Don’t Forget About IRL
Don’t forget that the traditional way of meeting people still exists too! If going out to bars and clubs isn’t your thing, don’t worry. The best place to make authentic connections is when you’re out and about every day. Try and be more aware of who is around you when you go to get coffee or buy groceries. Practice making eye contact and smiling at people. It’s a simple but effective way to start conversations without having to make the first move if you’re shy.
3. Be Patient
Remember to be patient. Even when you have access to millions of people, it can take time to get into a rhythm. You may meet ten people in a row who aren’t a good fit for you, but that’s still ten new experiences! Dating can be a bit of a numbers game. Try and enjoy all your dates even if they don’t lead to anything.
4. Remember What’s To Come
When you come out of something long-term, don’t feel ashamed if you feel sad or feel slightly jealous of your friends who are in relationships. These feelings are all normal. It doesn’t make you inadequate or make you less worthy of love than your friends. It’s better to be out of a relationship that isn’t serving you than just going through the motions and being unhappy. Use these events as a reminder of what’s still to come for you.