I had a very special date this Monday. I had an alone day. It didn’t happen by chance. Like most dates, I prepped and planned.
Naturally, I spent a portion of the day reading. While breezing through piles of content I had gathered, I came across a quote by June Jordan: “We are the ones we have been waiting for.”
We are the ones that we have been waiting for. It dawned on me that some time after my first kiss, I, like most people, became intoxicated with the idea of finding someone special. I have to admit that I don’t think that ever really faded entirely.
For most of my adult life, I had been waiting for someone to come in and sweep me off my feet. This intensity over the years fluctuated, of course, but the idea was always there. It’s subconscious. It’s an understanding that we picked up somewhere. It’s not our fault.
In the last four years, I have been pushed and tested in every way possible: professionally, romantically, spiritually—humanly. Against my efforts and fidgeting, I went through this alone. All of it--gulp by gulp, cringe by cringe.
After all that, I realized that there was really one person that I needed to be okay with, to be extremely loving to, and thankful for, to get everything else in line. That person was me. I am the one I have been waiting to discover, comfort, unleash, and love. I am the one I have been waiting for.
Don’t get me wrong, I look forward to finding that special person that is going to support me in my spiritual and human journey, but I realize now that there are so many things that I cannot ask for. There are so many things that only I provide and most of those things are what make life so special. We’re all in this to exercise our potential. We’re actually just here to be ourselves and it always amazes me how much effort we put into resisting that.
So, for all those in doubt, it’s you. You have all you need already. You’re the one.